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In this week's dose, I share tips on discipline, routines, self-judgment, and using your struggles for good.
Quote of the week:
“Routine, in an intelligent man, is a sign of ambition.” - W.H. Auden
In Essentialism, Mckeown shares how essentialists design routines that make achieving what is MOST important the default position.
Meaning they put their goals on autopilot through intentional routines.
With the RIGHT routine in place, each action generates results that compound over time.
Time to stop winging it.
Mind-Body Mastery: Gandhi & Self-Discipline
"Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indomitable will." - Mahatma Gandhi
I hear all the time from guys I talk to that “I wish I had the discipline.”
As if they believe it’s just not part of who they are.
But they’ve got it all wrong.
Discipline isn’t a trait we’re born with or without.
It’s a skill that’s built through REPETITION.
Self-discipline is to mastering your mind as squatting is to building your glutes.
It’s never given but always earned. What I love about disciplined people, is that I know they’ve WORKED for it.
They’ve overcome impulses & distractions to harness their willpower.
Through consistent self-discipline, you put yourself back in the driver’s seat of your life.
One BIG tip: Start small.
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🥷 The Antidote to Self-Criticism
As high performers, we tend to be hyper-critical & VERY hard on ourselves. It was always easier for me to be patient with others than with myself.
Why this matters:
Our self-criticism ultimately projects onto others in the form of judgment, comparison, complaining, and gossip.
We put others down in an attempt to bring ourselves UP - to feel better about ourselves.
When I speak to someone who is hyper-judgmental of others, I know it’s just a reflection of their self-view.
Self-judgment looks like expectation - a sense that we KNOW what we SHOULD be doing.
And it has the same vibe when we project it on others.
A part of us feels so certain about what it knows, how things should be, and anything misaligned with that is less than.
Between the lines:
The way to experience less judgment of others is to improve our own self-criticism. And the antidote to self-criticism is curiosity, patience, & self-compassion.
Ask that part of you:
- “What’s your world like?”
- “Hm, that’s really interesting, why do you think that way?”
- “Help me understand where you’re coming from.”
Keep an open mind and question the part of you that is so CERTAIN it knows exactly how you should act (and then gives you a hard time for not behaving perfectly).
And ALWAYS work to treat yourself like you would your best friend.
This creates patience & compassion within that project onto others.
Let me know how this works for you.
🔦 Success Spotlight
BIG shoutout this week to a client of mine who said he’s feeling a 10/10 across the board and asked me, “So, what do we work on now in our calls?” 😂
It’s a GOOD problem to have…
🎙 Podcast: Reframe Your Journey w/ Greg Ryder
In this episode, Greg and I discuss:
- How you can be depressed even if everything appears OK on the surface
- How to approach the desire to make a change in your life
- The process of bridging from an idea to a legitimate business model
- How to show up as your best self, give yourself grace, and lead others with empathy
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